’Language Myths’ by Laurie Bauer and Peter Trudgill

One of my selections was the following and I thought it was interesting enough to share with my readers….

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Discussion Subject: Myth #6 (page 41)

Women Talk Too Much

 by Janet Holmes

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Outline of Presentation

The evidence put forth by Holmes is that most available evidence of research suggests it is actually men that  talk too much. Not women!!!

Yes, Men generally dominate talking time!

Research included various environments

100 public seminars researched showed that during 93 of the seminars men talked more, while only during seven women dominated the conversations.

A British company had four men and four women in influential positions: men not only talked more but they were vocally domineering and patronizing.

Studies of classrooms show that male students dominate classroom talk.

So, why are women stereotyped as “Talking too much?”

It seems that talk and conversation serves different functions in different contexts

• Competitive environments
• Social Status
• Power Seekers

Holmes suggests that we should watch or attend a political or community meeting and time the talk time of males vs. females to prove the point.

Studies also show that even in informal settings men talk more than women do, but women are more likely to talk in relaxed social environments.

The topic of conversation is also related to talk time. Men’s talk is more informational and opinions. Women are supportive and agreeable during conversations.

So…why is it that many think women talk too much?

Some Facts

• Feminist women challenge traditional roles and talk more often than men talk.
• Women talk more when the female population is greater than males in attendance
• Women talk more among family and friends: often to maintain or develop connections.
• Women talk more during interviews

Conclusion

Do women talk more than men do?

It depends on the situation, social role and familiarity of the topic of discussion

Keep in mind that there is a difference between talking to someone and talking at someone!

Just email me you mailing address and I will send the requested book to you.

First come first serve.

I will pay initial postage-return paid by you.

Tip-you can mail books at a discounted rate at the post office you just have to request book mailing fee (probably 2-3 dollars)

If this becomes a popular option I will blog a list of my complete library (books, magazines, CDs and DVDs)-and there are many !!!

~sharon

email

sharonmarrama@comcast.net

****Don’t forget the Used Book Superstore-they are located in Burlington, Danvers, Saugus, Salem NH and I think a couple of more locations.

Good Books Cheap!

By Terri Sabelli

12 Steps to Financial Balance

Terri is my accountant and I love this book for reference. She wrote the best dedication

 ’Many thanks to…

My husband who heard the word, “budget” shortly after hearing, “I love you”

Terri is the founder of

The Financial Wellness Center in Peabody Massachusetts

This books includes

The 12 Steps to Financial Balance

Imagine your life financially organized and balanced.

Would you feel more confident?

 Your sense of peace intensified?

You’re entitled to a life of financial freedom.

At the Financial Wellness Center, you can learn how to live a life with intentions, values, and achievable goals. Building the foundation of your financial life needs to be based on a plan; not created by default! When you look at the decisions behind your spending habits, are they driven by a vision of what you want in your life? If not, it’s time to take a journey and discover . .

The 12 Steps to Financial Balance.

1. Building the Master Plan
2. Budget
3. Savings
4. Investing
5. Maximize Retirement
6. Short-term Planning
7. Long-term Planning
8. Controlling Unsecured Debt
9. Controlling Long-term Debt
10. Basic Estate Planning
11. Reviewing Insurances
12. Planning for the Unexpected and Major Life Events

http://www.financial-wellness-center.com/Boarding_Services.html

by Gretchen Rubin

Or Why I Spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning,

 Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle,

 and Generally Have More Fun

Gretchen’s Twelve Personal Commandments

• Be Gretchen.
• Let it go.
• Act the way I want to feel.
• Do it now.
• Be polite and be fair.
• Enjoy the process.
• Spend out.
• Identify the problem.
• Lighten up.
• Do what ought to be done.
• No calculation.
• There is only love.

THE HAPPINESS PROJECT is the memoir of the year I spent test-driving the wisdom of the ages, current scientific studies, and lessons from popular culture about how to be happier – happily, it was a #1 New York Times bestseller. As one of the hundreds of experiments I’ve conducted, I started this blog. Here, I recount my daily adventures in pursuit of happiness. –

Gretchen Rubin

Link to Website

http://www.happiness-project.com

How Did I Get So Busy

by Valorie Burton

A Certified Professional Coach and Motivational Speaker

The 28-Day Plan to Free Your Time, Reclaim Your Schedule, and Reconnect with What Matters Most

Readers will learn to:

- Understand the factors that drive them to busyness, procrastination and timewasters

- Develop a self-care plan

- Break a persistent procrastination habit

- Gain perspective and focus on what matters most in every situation

- Make meaningful connections with others through enhanced communication

- Achieve goals with purpose, passion and room to breathe!

Valorie has written quite a few books that you may find helpful. Her website is loaded with motivational material.

Link to Valorie Burton’s website

http://www.valorieburton.com

Link to Amazon interactive Table of Contents

I have been spending the past few weeks trying to get ‘organized’ according to everyone else’s standards. Yes, I purchased the book “How the Heck Did I Get So Busy” Yes too busy to read it. Tried but it is basically a self-help get your A_ _ in gear book. As I struggled through the chapters I thought “I know what I have to do-therefore I will just do it.” Next, I picked up a copy of a book that my accountant wrote “The Journey to Financial Wellness” this was definitely of some interest to me and will help most. But then again a lot of what I already knew.  I will keep it as a reference guide. Then I started “The Happiness Project” this book allows you to follow the journey of the author (Gretchen Rubin) as she tries to get happier. She ‘started out’ at Yale Law School, became editor-in-chief of the Yale Law Review. As she clerked for Justice Sandra Day O’Connor, she realized that she really wanted to be a writer. Happily married and living in New York City she just one day decided to live life to make herself happy. For twelve months, she chooses a theme and works on it. Topics include friends, family, health etc. It is insightful but I just could not finish it. I did something that I rarely do– I placed it back in my to read in the future pile. Gretchen was already happy enough for me. I must mention that one thing I loved was that she set up a website where anyone can formulate their only ‘Happiness Project” or join a “Happiness Group.” This is a great idea because we often are more motivated when working in a group and it tends to makes us more compliant due to a feeling of commitment.

With all that said, I have decided that I will not read another self-help book for at least a month (ha-ha).

I know how to help myself and yes often the experience of another individual may inspire us or help to guide us but for now I truly need to  “JUST DO IT”

Over the course of the next few weeks I will be getting my s_ _ _ in order and making a list (I am a major list person) of what I need to focus on over the next twelve months.

Gretchen has inspired the list!!! Seems the book had more of an impact on me that I had initially realized.

So The Two Sisters will continue to inspire you-but on a more multi-faceted array of subject matter.

Important ‘exercises’ for aging women – that’d be your two sisters!

http://www.oprah.com/health/Pelvic-Floor-Exercises-for-Women-Kegels-and-Pelvic-Clocks

People often ask me what books they recommend as they begin their yoga journey…. this is a must.  See my review for why:

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/08/review-of-mindful-yoga-mindful-life-by-charlotte-bell/

Sharon and I also have a page on our website (currently being updated) which I’ll provide here:

SHARON:
An Ordinary Life Transformed – Stephanie Rutt

Yoga Chick – “A Hip Guide to Everything OM” – Bess Gallanis

Smart Guide to Yoga – Stephanie Levin-Gervasi

Yoga Body, Buddha Mind – Cindy Lee

The Seven Spiritual Laws of Yoga – Deepak Chopra & David Simon

Yoga for Life – Martin & Margaret Pierce

MAUREEN:
The Power of Intention – Wayne Dyer

Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life – Wayne Dyer

A New Earth – Eckhart Tolle

Mudras – Yoga in Your Hands – Gertrude Hirschi

Creative Visualization – Shakti Gawain

Life Lessons – Elisabeth Kubler-Ross & David Kessler

Anatomy of the Spirit – Caroline Myss

It’s been a while since we updated that page, so we’ll do that as we are updating the website too.

Make an amazing day everyone.

Love,
~Sharon & Maureen

How Did I Get So Busy?

 The 28-day Plan to Free Your Time, Reclaim Your Schedule, and Reconnect with What Matters Most

It was under $12.00 on Amazon

The instructor was Dina McLaughlin(at least I think that is still her last name-not sure) and yes it is my brother Paul’s ex-wife. She also teaches at LA Fitness in Stoneham and that is where Erica found out about the class.

Let me tell you-I loved it! It was easy! It was quiet! It was shady! It was warm! It was free!

Fifty minutes passed by as if it was ten minutes.

I recommend this class for all levels but it is perfect for beginners.

Think about joining us next week.

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