So maybe you are wondering…What are Sharon’s core values?
Well, if one were to ask me what are my best qualities, off the top of my head I would answer honesty, compassion/kindness, and authenticity.
Honesty is my #1 Core Value. To be honest is to be sincere, trustworthy and truthful.
There are many quotes on honesty and you probably recall some of these.
- One falsehood spoils a thousand truths. ~African Proverb
- “Honesty is the best policy, if I lose mine honor, I lose myself” ~Shakespere
- No man has a good enough memory to make a successful liar. ~Abraham Lincoln
- Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom. ~ Thomas Jefferson
But my favorite by far……
O, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive! ~Walter Scott
Give this some thought. I was taught at an early age (thanks mom and dad) that it takes too much energy to lie. You tell a lie, then another to cover it up, then you want to tell another but forget what the truth is and actually sometimes what the lie that you told even was in the first place. Eventually you look like a fool and people will lose faith in you and your spoken word.
So it just makes better sense to tell the truth. Now I am not saying that I never told a white lie, I have. If someone asks an opinion I am usually truthful but I will not hurt any ones feelings if it can be helped, unless the outcome is better for the truth. Benefit vs risk!. Sometimes the truth hurts and does not have to.
And to steal never! When I was young I once took a pack of gum (Redstone Shopping Center, I think it was an A & P, the store gave out stamps with purchase that you saved in a book) and opened the pack before I approached the register. They thought I was stealing, locked me in a back room and called my parents. I actually should thank them, scared the pants off me. Then I remember when I was in junior high school. I went to the mall (I think Burlington had just opened) and some of my friends, one decided to steal some makeup (we did not even wear any), got caught and they called her parents. I again was horrified. So, when I tell you I never took a tooth brush from my dental office without telling someone I mean that!! Postage, I paid for it. Maybe I took a manila envelope, but it was when it was about to be thrown out. Free samples from suppliers, that was okay. Give me too much change, I give it back to the clerk. Switch price tag..OMG!!!
If you are my friend, family member, past or present employer be assured I never stole anything from you!!
It feels great to be able to say that!
Well, there is another side to honesty; this can be a bit more complex.
What do you think I would do? What do you think I would do?
- Your husband is having an affair, you ask. Should I tell you?
- I am having an affair, you ask. Should I tell you?
- Your child is doing drugs, you ask. Should I tell you?
- My child is doing drugs, you ask. Should I tell you?
- Your employee is stealing from you, you ask. Should I tell you?!
- My employee is stealing from me, you ask. Should I tell you?
- You buy a hot pink dress and it looks a bit silly on you, you ask. Should I tell you?
- I have an appointment with you, need to cancel, Should I tell you the truth?
- I am unhappy with your response to my question, Should I tell the truth?
- I call in sick, Should I be sick?
Honesty shows good moral conscience and it feels good to say “I am an honest person!”